The Magic of the In-Between: Why Growth Feels Uncomfortable

There is a space we don’t talk about enough.

It’s the space between who you were and who you’re becoming.
The space where nothing feels fully certain, but everything is shifting.

It’s uncomfortable.
It’s unclear.
And for many young people, it feels like something is wrong.

But this space….the in-between….is where the real work of growth happens.

Why the In-Between Feels So Hard

We live in a world that celebrates clarity.

We celebrate:

• Confidence

• Identity

• Success

• Knowing who you are

But we rarely talk about the process it takes to get there.

For youth and young adults especially, this creates pressure:

• Figure it out quickly

• Pick who you are

• Be sure of yourself

When they can’t do that (which is completely normal), they often internalize it as failure.

But the truth is:

Uncertainty is not a problem to fix. It is a phase to move through.

What’s Actually Happening Beneath the Surface

During times of transition, the brain and emotional system are actively reorganizing.

Young people are:

• Letting go of old identities

• Trying on new ones

• Reevaluating beliefs

• Testing boundaries

• Building independence

This is not linear. It is layered, messy, and often contradictory.

One day they feel confident.
The next day they feel unsure.

That doesn’t mean they’re lost.

It means they are becoming.

The Cultural Pressure to Skip the Middle

One of the biggest challenges young people and the neurodiverse face is the expectation to move through this phase quickly.

Social media amplifies this:

• Everyone seems sure

• Everyone seems confident

• Everyone seems “fully formed”

But what they don’t see is the in-between behind those moments.

So they begin to believe:

• I’m the only one who feels this way

• I should have this figured out by now

This is where anxiety and self-doubt start to take hold.

Not because they’re doing something wrong, but because they’re trying to rush a process that cannot be rushed.

Nature Doesn’t Rush and Neither Should We

If you look at nature, everything moves in cycles.

There are seasons of:

• Growth

• Rest

• Release

• Renewal

Nothing blooms all year.
Nothing transforms overnight.

The in-between seasons, like early spring or late autumn—are quiet, uncertain, and often overlooked. But they are essential. They are where preparation and transformation happen beneath the surface.

Young people are no different.

They are not meant to always be in a state of clarity or confidence.
They are meant to move through cycles.

What Young People and the Neurodiverse Actually Need in This Space

They don’t need to be rushed.

They don’t need to be told who they are.

They need:

• Permission to not have it all figured out

• Language to understand what they’re experiencing

• Space to explore without pressure

• Support that doesn’t try to control the outcome

When we remove urgency, something powerful happens:

They begin to trust themselves.

The Role of Adults and Mentors

This is often the hardest part.

Adults want to help.
They want to guide, fix, and support.

But in the in-between, the most impactful thing we can do is hold space instead of rushing resolution.

That looks like:

• Listening without immediately correcting

• Asking questions instead of giving answers

• Normalizing uncertainty

• Resisting the urge to label or define too quickly

Because the moment we rush them out of the in-between, we interrupt the very process that builds confidence and identity.

Why This Matters for Magical Rebels

At Magical Rebels, we don’t see the in-between as something to move through quickly.

We see it as something to honor.

This is where:

• Voice is discovered

• Identity is shaped

• Inner trust is built

For those who identify with the girl experience and lead a feminine lifestyle, this is especially important. Many have been taught to seek certainty outside of themselves—to look for validation, direction, or approval.

The in-between invites something different:

Coming back to yourself.

Final Thought

Growth does not happen in the moments where everything feels clear.

It happens in the moments where you’re unsure, questioning, and shifting.

The in-between is not a sign that you are lost.

It is a sign that something new is forming.

And if we can learn to sit in that space, without rushing, without fear, we begin to understand:

There is nothing wrong with becoming.

It was always meant to feel this way.

The Spiritual Void and the Rise of Modern Witchcraft

Across generations, there are moments when people begin to feel a quiet but persistent absence—something missing beneath the routines, expectations, and structures of everyday life. This absence is often described as a spiritual void: a sense of disconnection from meaning, purpose, identity, or something larger than oneself.

For today’s youth especially, this feeling is becoming more visible.

They are growing up in a world that is highly connected digitally, yet often fragmented emotionally and spiritually. Traditional institutions, religious, cultural, and communal, no longer hold the same central role they once did for many families. At the same time, there is increased exposure to global perspectives, identities, and belief systems. The result is a generation that is both curious and untethered, seeking meaning, but not always finding it in conventional places.

This is where the conversation around modern witchcraft often emerges.

It’s important to understand that what is trending today under the label of “witchcraft” is not a single, uniform practice. For many, it is not about spells or supernatural power in the way media portrays it. Instead, it represents a broader movement toward personal spirituality, ritual, and self-defined belief systems.

So why is it resonating right now?

First, it offers agency.
In a world where many systems feel out of individual control, practices associated with witchcraft, journaling, intention-setting, working with cycles of the moon or seasons, give people a sense of participation in their own lives. It becomes less about being told what to believe and more about choosing what feels meaningful.

Second, it is deeply tied to nature and rhythm.
Many modern interpretations draw from seasonal cycles, earth-based traditions, and the idea that life moves in phases, growth, rest, release, renewal. For young people especially, this can feel grounding in contrast to the fast, constant pace of digital life. It reconnects them to something tangible and cyclical rather than linear and pressured.

Third, it creates space for identity exploration.
Spirituality, when approached outside rigid structures, allows individuals to ask: Who am I? What do I believe? What feels true to me? For youth navigating identity—whether gender, emotional, or social this openness can feel safer and more affirming than systems that prescribe answers.

Fourth, it fosters ritual and meaning-making.
Humans are wired for ritual. Even small, intentional acts- lighting a candle, setting a goal, reflecting on a phase of life can create a sense of significance and grounding. What some call “witchcraft” is often simply a structured way of creating those moments.

At the same time, it’s important to hold nuance, especially when guiding young people.

Not everything labeled as “witchcraft” online is rooted in understanding or respect for its origins. Some practices are borrowed, simplified, or commercialized in ways that disconnect them from their cultural or spiritual roots. This creates an opportunity for education: helping youth understand the difference between personal spiritual exploration and cultural appropriation or trend-driven behavior. We’ve done a deeper dive in our private youth coaching group about this because it is so important.

The goal is not to steer young people toward or away from any specific belief system.

The goal is to help them develop awareness.

To understand that:

• People choose beliefs for different reasons: community, tradition, identity, healing, or meaning

• Spirituality can take many forms, from structured religion to personal practice

• It is okay to explore, question, and evolve

• Respect for others’ beliefs and for the origins of practices is essential

In spaces like Magical Rebels, these conversations are not about defining what is “right.” They are about creating room for thoughtful exploration.

Because the presence of a spiritual void is not inherently negative.

It is often the beginning of a search.

And for many, what looks like a trend, like the rise of witchcraft, is actually a reflection of something deeper: a desire to reconnect, understand, and find meaning in a world that doesn’t always offer clear answers.

When we meet that curiosity with openness instead of fear, we give young people something far more powerful than answers.

We give them the tools to ask their own questions, and the confidence to explore what comes next.